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	<title>Kris Ellen &#187; Touch</title>
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		<title>A celebration of Return</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Jul 2010 19:37:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>KrisEllen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Dear Sensualists,
It has been 7 years since I lived in the San Francisco Bay Area. My path has taken me to the depths of Self exploration and back. In these depths I redefined and confirmed my Service to humanity. Thus the Professional Sensualist was born.
Now, 7 years later I find myself called back to the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Sensualists,</p>
<p>It has been 7 years since I lived in the San Francisco Bay Area. My path has taken me to the depths of Self exploration and back. In these depths I redefined and confirmed my Service to humanity. Thus the Professional Sensualist was born.</p>
<p>Now, 7 years later I find myself called back to the Bay Area. The level of consciousness and community sing to my heart. The next few months I will be expanding my offerings and sharing these delightful Sensualist sessions with sincere seekers.</p>
<p>In CELEBRATION of this return, I am offering a special offering of support to reconnect with my Bay Area roots. For the next phases of my journey, I am offering these Arts at an amazing value. Yes, I understand these are challenging times financially. I honor your hard work for your chi, and when you choose to share this abundance here for your own growth and pleasure you make a choice. How do you choose to spend your money?</p>
<p>In September I will be moving to San Francisco for a couple of weeks. I have a delightful Temple space available and will be creating delightful sessions for sincere seekers.</p>
<p>I have some Cuddle Parties planned for this fall in the East Bay. These events are a great non-sexual way to learn communication, and relationship boundary skills you can use everyday. Check out cuddleparty.com for more information about these wonderful events.</p>
<p>If you are a practitioner of the Sensual Arts, I will be coordinating with Dr. Betty Martin for her Like a Pro course in the end of August.</p>
<p>More events will be added soon. Keep your eyes out, and I look forward to hearing from you soon to schedule your delightful Sensualist session.</p>
<p>Blessings,</p>
<p>Kris Ellen</p>
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		<title>Double Goddess sessions available</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jun 2010 07:08:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>KrisEllen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Four hands, two hearts and two talented, experienced, energetic women are available to create amazing, unique  sessions for your personal growth and expansion. Yes! Come dive into these amazing sessions, and feel the exponential healing  possible as your Soul sings.
I invite you to explore your highest potential with me, Kris Ellen: Sacred Sensualist, and these [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Four hands, two hearts and two talented, experienced, energetic women are available to create amazing, unique  sessions for your personal growth and expansion. Yes! Come dive into these amazing sessions, and feel the exponential healing  possible as your Soul sings.</p>
<p>I invite you to explore your highest potential with me, Kris Ellen: Sacred Sensualist, and these amazing Goddesses.</p>
<p>I am honored to share that as my travels have expanded my practice, so too my knowledge of the amazing women in our community has blossomed. My fellow Goddesses are some of the most talented women offering sessions in our world. They travel the globe offering these Sacred Arts. Are you ready to receive from not just one Goddess, but two?</p>
<p>If you desire a delicious session with us please contact me. This is your chance to create a delightful investment in your Tantric journey.</p>
<p>I look forward to our time together.</p>
<p>Blessings,</p>
<p>Kris Ellen</p>
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		<title>Southern California visit, Southwestern tour</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 18 Apr 2010 22:44:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>KrisEllen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Greetings Sensualists,
As spring grows in fullness, this season again finds me ready and excited to travel to the annual Sedona Conference of Sex and Consciousness  Educators. This year I will be presenting a perspective on celibacy in the polyamourious community. On my journey down into Arizona I have availability to create some time with [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Greetings Sensualists,</p>
<p>As spring grows in fullness, this season again finds me ready and excited to travel to the annual <span>Sedona Conference of Sex and Consciousness  Educators. This year I will be presenting a perspective on celibacy in the polyamourious community. On my journey down into Arizona I have availability to create some time with you!<br />
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<p><span><em>These dates are flexible, and I look forward to co-creating a delicious session with you as works for both our schedules.</em><br />
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<p><span>I am available in Southern CA April 30th-May 3rd. May 1st I will be celebrating Beltane with some beautiful, sacred  ceremonies in </span>Laguna Beach. <span><br />
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<p><span>I am available in Phoenix May 4th and 5th, and May 12-16th. <strong>May 15th</strong> I am excited to share my first review C<strong>uddle Party! </strong>Come out and join in the frolic. Tickets are $30 at the door, or are available online. </span></p>
<p><span>If you are in Utah I am looking at creating a travel plans which includes your beautiful state. Please contact me for more information.</span></p>
<p>Sensualist sessions, Coaching appointments and educational events are all available.</p>
<p>I look forward to sharing these amazing Sacred Arts with you.</p>
<p>Blessings,</p>
<p>Kris Ellen</p>
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		<title>Cuddle Party: a new tool to share with you</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 10 Mar 2010 21:14:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>KrisEllen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Part of my work here, as a Professional Sensualist, is to bring awareness of our choices back into our lives, creating a healthier, happier sensual experience for all.
One of the tools in which I am now in training to share is the Cuddle Party (a workshop built to promote healthy, nurturing touch with strong communication, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Part of my work here, as a Professional Sensualist, is to bring awareness of our choices back into our lives, creating a healthier, happier sensual experience for all.</p>
<p>One of the tools in which I am now in training to share is the Cuddle Party (a workshop built to promote healthy, nurturing touch with strong communication, and self empowered choices).</p>
<p>Cuddle Parties are a chance for us to learn and practice our skills as sensual beings. In this safe, &#8220;non sexual&#8221; workshop we are empowered to create healthy boundaries with clear communication, and explore nurturing touch. These skills transcend any single facet of our lives. Sexual, non sexual. Friendships, partners, coworkers, neighbors; it is my belief that every single human being can benefit by learning communication skills, healthy boundary setting, body awareness and self empowered choice.</p>
<p>As an experiential workshop, we are given the chance and opportunity to express ourselves in Pajamas. Yes, that is right, this workshop is conducted and participated in our PJ&#8217;s! This fun way to rekindle the playful days of the PJ party of our younger days, tapping into the frolic and open nature of our inner child.</p>
<p>I will be scheduling three &#8220;review Cuddle Parties&#8221; for my Certification in May, and June.  I am looking forward to sharing these wonderful workshops with you.</p>
<p>For more information about Cuddle Party, and to see if there is a facilitator in your location please visit<br />
<a href="http://www.cuddleparty.com" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.cuddleparty.com?referer=');">www.cuddleparty.com</a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2010/03/08/DDL61CB42K.DTL" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2010/03/08/DDL61CB42K.DTL&amp;referer=');">Here is a nice SF Chronicle piece about one of the Co-creators of Cuddle Party. </a></p>
<p>Blessings,<br />
Kris Ellen<br />
Sacred Sensualist<br />
Cuddle Party Facilitator *in training*</p>
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		<title>Couples Sensual Experiences</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 24 Aug 2009 22:49:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>KrisEllen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Are you are celebrating your anniversary?  How about a special gift of love and devotion? A spontaneous treat to foster depth and intimacy?  No matter what your special occasion, your sensualist experience awaits.
Here is a testimonial from a couple I shared time with&#8230;I am honored to share a unique and sensual experiences with you! I [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Are you are celebrating your anniversary?  How about a special gift of love and devotion? A spontaneous treat to foster depth and intimacy?  No matter what your special occasion, your sensualist experience awaits.<br />
Here is a testimonial from a couple I shared time with&#8230;I am honored to share a unique and sensual experiences with you! I honor your courage and celebrate the connection between partners. It is such a blessing to share this deep work. The exponential growth that may be achieved is stunning.</p>
<p>Review: Kris Ellen.  Professional Sensualist<br />
My wife and I met Kris Ellen and after a number of refreshingly open and mature conversations about our mutual interest in Tantra and spiritual growth, we scheduled a session. After a “getting to know each other” conversation, the three of us went to our ocean side home and my wife and I discovered a deep, enjoyable and very special sharing with Kris Ellen. She is the heart of Tantra and someone who can aid anyone in their growth . We look forward to many great times with Kris Elle to sharing, and growing together.<br />
G.</p>
<p>I am honored to share these gifts of sacred, sensual connection with you.</p>
<p>Blessings,</p>
<p>Kris Ellen</p>
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		<title>New oppertunities, Travel and the Sensualist Temple Tour.</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 24 Aug 2009 22:35:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Greetings Friends,
I am excited to share that I will be moving out of Humboldt(for some time away)  and beyond the Redwood Curtain. If you are here in Humboldt and desire a sensualist experience please contact me. I will be creating opportunities to return and share sessions on specific dates.
If you are not in Humboldt and [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Greetings Friends,</p>
<p>I am excited to share that I will be moving out of Humboldt(for some time away)  and beyond the Redwood Curtain. If you are here in Humboldt and desire a sensualist experience please contact me. I will be creating opportunities to return and share sessions on specific dates.</p>
<p>If you are not in Humboldt and seek to share these luscious opportunities, I look forward to hearing from you too! My home base will be in the Central Valley near Sacramento. I shall be expanding my travels far and wide. Phoenix is calling me this Fall.</p>
<p>Who knows where else my my travel adventures will lead! I am open to the possibilities.</p>
<p>I look forward to hearing from you!</p>
<p>Blessings,</p>
<p>Kris Ellen</p>
<p>My cell phone # is: 707-845-3076</p>
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		<title>Forward: &#8220;This is what a sexless marriage feels like&#8221; (a woman&#8217;s perspective)</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 24 May 2009 20:44:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[From : Salon.com
This is What a Sexless Marriage Feels Like (http://open.salon.com//blog/and_yet/2009/05/11/this_is_what_a_sexless_marriage_feels_like)
This is What a Sexless Marriage Feels Like:
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2>From : Salon.com</h2>
<p>This is What a <span style="border-bottom: 1px dashed #0066cc; background: transparent none repeat scroll 0% 0%; cursor: pointer; -moz-background-clip: -moz-initial; -moz-background-origin: -moz-initial; -moz-background-inline-policy: -moz-initial" class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1243197692_2">Sexless Marriage</span> Feels Like (<a href="http://open.salon.com//blog/and_yet/2009/05/11/this_is_what_a_sexless_marriage_feels_like" target="_blank" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/open.salon.com//blog/and_yet/2009/05/11/this_is_what_a_sexless_marriage_feels_like?referer=');"><span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1243197692_3">http://open.salon.com//blog/and_yet/2009/05/11/this_is_what_a_sexless_marriage_feels_like</span></a>)</p>
<p>This is What a Sexless Marriage Feels Like:</p>
<p><!-- <a class="myyahoo" href="http://add.my.yahoo.com/rss?url=" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/add.my.yahoo.com/rss?url=&amp;referer=');">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</a> &#8211;> <!-- <a class="buzzit" href="#">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</a> &#8211;></p>
<p><span style="float: left; margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px; text-align: right"><span style="font-family: verdana,sans-serif; font-size: 11px; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: bold; line-height: 18px; text-transform: uppercase"></span><span></span> </span><span class="share" style="text-align: right"></span>This post is not about virtue. It is not an ask for sympathy. It attempts to explore what I&#8217;ve learned about sex and sexuality since sex ended within my long-term relationship. I won&#8217;t say much about why, because half of it is not my story to tell and I have no right. Just know that because of illness and after sharing a normal, monogamous, sexually active relationship for nearly a decade, my spouse suddenly lost the need, desire, and passion for sex.</p>
<p>When sex disappears like that, you don&#8217;t necessarily know it at the time. There&#8217;s no announcement. No resetting of hormones for each of you. No discussion that starts with, &#8220;I&#8217;m thinking I&#8217;ll never want to have sex again. Are you ok with this?&#8221;  It&#8217;s just gone. One day, perhaps months or years later, you realize that the last time you had sex together was the last time you’d <em>ever</em> have sex together.</p>
<p>As I’ve gone through these years without a sexual connection to my spouse, sexual desire did not fade within me. I still think about sex and long for it, I still dream about it, and fantasize. I do try to minimize overt exposure to what can make it harder. I don’t read the OS dirty haikus on Thursday and I never read sensual erotica. I look away during sex scenes in films. I no longer engage in “how’s your sex life” conversations with friends. And yet, even with these rules and a relationship devoid of sex, sex remains a part of my life, in my mind, in my dreams, and in my writing.</p>
<p>As I’ve gotten through these last eight years, I’ve thought a lot about sex, sexuality, and relationships. Here is some of what I’ve discovered:</p>
<p><strong>Sex is vital to a good life.</strong> What? You thought you knew that? So did I. I knew sex reduced my stress level, added to my joie de vivre, helped me sleep more soundly, and that it made the mornings after sweeter. I knew that dependable, good sex was very important, even imperative to a good life and relationship. Going without sex led me to understand its meaning even more: I understand how it nourishes and comforts, touches the soul, sustains our natural rhythms. All of that was happening before, so I never examined the ‘how or why”. Going without sex now, I can see how the lack of it upsets each of those things.</p>
<p><strong>Sex may not be a need like air, but it is needed.</strong> Yes, I can live without sex, I pretty much do, but I don’t live joyfully. It’s gotten harder, not easier to go without for so long. I need sex to live the life I wanted to live, to feel happiness to the potential I have within me, to carry me through life’s challenges and sorrows. I need sex like I need friends and conversation, like I need the sun and spring, like I need books and music. I need sex to make all of those things better, too. Some nights, sex is all I can think about. I ache to be desired and wanted, to give way to joy and abandon. There is no substitute for the moment when your lover reaches out for you with passion, or with love. Trust me on this, there is no substitute.</p>
<p><strong>Sex holds you together when everything else is pulling you apart. </strong>Another given, but think about it for a gentle moment. How many times has that tender caress, that kiss that lingers just a bit longer, that flirtatious glance made you feel closer, safer, connected, a couple, united? How often has it been the bridge from anger to forgiveness, from stressed to relaxed, from lonely to loved? It works. Sex does the job it is supposed to do, fusing you as a couple. Sharing sex means exposing vulnerability, intimacies of the heart and body. You know secrets about each other that are beyond naked and truer than fact, learned during uncensored moments of bliss. Honoring and protecting those secrets is a gift to each other.</p>
<p><strong>Sex makes me feel like a woman and nothing else really does. </strong>My career doesn&#8217;t do that for me. Spending time with friends doesn&#8217;t. Volunteering doesn’t. Wearing skirts and lingerie helps, but still&#8230;.  sex? Oh yes. That&#8217;s when I feel womanly and confident, aching to express my desire and eroticism, and ready to reveal the mysteries of my gender. Nothing else asks me to reach in and grasp the inner femaleness that flows so deep, that yearns to surface. Going without sex now, I sometimes feels less of who I am, less connected to my friends and other women, a little less relevant in the world. I feel distant from myself.</p>
<p><strong>Our sexuality continues to evolve over time, even after many years.</strong>  About five years into this, I realized something very new about my sexual desire, something I had not considered before. How could this be? I wasn’t in an active sexual relationship, I was making every attempt to de-sexualize myself, and suddenly a new sexual idea came to me begging to be explored and experienced. How unfair and cruel! This revelation thrilled, stunned and scared me. How and why this came to me during the sex-free years of my existence remain obscure to me, and yet there it is. Just another reminder that sexuality, that basic human drive, has a life of its own.</p>
<p><strong>Sex allows you to communicate in ways that you cannot replicate in any other way.</strong>   What you can do with your fingers, your mouth, your hips&#8230;. all those luscious areas of the body that allow for expression that can&#8217;t be articulated any other way. During sex you can whisper and tease and demand and beg with intonation and nuances that are not appropriate in any other setting. I miss this language so dearly and with such a vengeance that I have to continually monitor myself to be sure I don&#8217;t do it in the wrong setting.<span>  </span>I have to say, honestly, this is probably what I miss the most – the language of sex.</p>
<p><strong>Masturbation is nice.</strong> And I am a pro. I swear to all of you, none of you are better at this than I am. I always knew masturbation was nice, but before it was just a warm-up or a way to tide myself over between couple-sex events. Now it<span><span style="font-family: Georgia; color: black"> </span></span><em>is</em><span><span style="font-family: Georgia; color: black"> </span></span>sex.</p>
<p><strong>Masturbation gets to be very, very lonely. </strong>Not lonely enough to totally stop, but lonely enough that sometimes an orgasm from solo masturbation ends in tears and a feeling of profound solitude.</p>
<p><strong>Sex gives us some hope. </strong>Sex makes us hope, for more, for better, for different, for the same. During the good years, we had sex pretty regularly, as couples do. Thursday night? Always. Again on a weekend night and a weekend morning, even both weekend mornings. And then there was Tuesday, the bonus day. Tuesdays felt a little hopeful, a little romantic, a little sexy. I miss that feeling, wondering if it will be a ‘sex Tuesday’. I miss counting on sex on Thursday, and looking forward to weekend sex. Going without sex all the time adds a layer of drudgery to the week. Now it&#8217;s just work, time after work, and then sleep. Same thing tomorrow. Same thing next week, next month, and next year. Sex adds that soft glitter to the winter’s gray, a soothing balm to the end of a long work day, a benevolent barrier to the world outside.</p>
<p><strong>The less I had sex, the more I thought about it.</strong><span><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia; color: black"> </span></strong></span>During the first few years of this, I thought about sex all the time. There wasn&#8217;t a conference room table on which I didn&#8217;t imagine a lewd image during a business meeting. I couldn&#8217;t enter an elevator without seeing myself pressed against the wall by a lover and kissed passionately. When I traveled, hotel rooms kept me awake at night as I thought about all the options therein. I have consciously worked to mitigate those thoughts and that’s helped, but even that ‘success’ feels like a loss.</p>
<p><strong>Sex makes me love my body.</strong><span><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia; color: black"> </span></strong></span>Watching, feeling, hearing a lover take pleasure in my body and receive it from my touch, these feelings are inimitable. A lover’s certain touch affirms me emotionally and physically. Knowing that my body and my own touch produce exquisite gratification and joy tell me I am a sexy, sensual woman. I appreciate my body and am glad for it, but I ache to express and enjoy its sexual potential.</p>
<p><span style="font-weight: bold">Our sexuality is a gift of comfort and passion that we offer the world, an offer to sustain a love, to convey our essence from our soul</span>.</p>
<p>There is more to say, but even a non-sexual relationship deserves some privacy. Thank you for respecting that. Please remember these are just<span><span style="font-family: Georgia; color: black"> </span></span><em>my</em><span><span style="font-family: Georgia; color: black"> </span></span>lessons. They may be meaningless to others who face this, and to those of you who are sexually active. I honestly can&#8217;t predict what will resonate for anyone. I beg you not to tell me I am wrong, but to trust that this is what I think and feel.</p>
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		<title>A new experience here at the Temple.</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 24 May 2009 20:38:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>KrisEllen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Greetings Friends,
There are a number of new evolutionary steps going into practice here at the Temple.
Forthwith the &#8220;donation&#8221; will be known as the &#8220;offering of support&#8221;.  All offerings are to be placed in the offering bowl prior to the conclusion of our time together. There will be no discussion of the offering during the session. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Greetings Friends,</p>
<p>There are a number of new evolutionary steps going into practice here at the Temple.</p>
<p>Forthwith the &#8220;donation&#8221; will be known as the &#8220;offering of support&#8221;.  All offerings are to be placed in the offering bowl prior to the conclusion of our time together. There will be no discussion of the offering during the session. It is not negotiable or refundable.</p>
<p>Your offering of support is what nourishes the growth and life of the Temple. As this is my spiritual path I am honored to share with you my ministry, my calling and my passion.</p>
<p>There will be a Prostate Health and Awareness class I am putting together for all men over 35 and the people who love them.  As well as a Breast Health class  presented in the next few months.</p>
<p>If you would like class updates please share with me your contact information so that I may let you know as events unfold.</p>
<p>Blessings on your journey.</p>
<p>KrisEllen</p>
<p>In love,</p>
<p>Kris Ellen</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 May 2009 23:22:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>KrisEllen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[ Here is an article I&#8217;d like to share with all the women thinking about manifesting their own healing. Forwarding from Philadelphia magazine, May 2009.
Sex: Very Desperate Housewives (I so dislike this title!) *To distort the beautiful sharing bodywork can be and write a titillating headline. Ahh!*(my comments, not the article)
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p> Here is an article I&#8217;d like to share with all the women thinking about manifesting their own healing. Forwarding from Philadelphia magazine, May 2009.</p>
<p>Sex: Very Desperate Housewives (I so dislike this title!) *To distort the beautiful sharing bodywork can be and write a titillating headline. Ahh!*(my comments, not the article)</p>
<p>A man willing to pay for sex in the city can find it easily. But for a woman looking to buy erotic pleasure, it’s not so simple. Then our writer found Brian, who will come to your home to deliver a certain sort of massage<br />
By Loren Hunt<br />
Page 1 of 4<br />
Betty [Client names and identifying characteristics have been changed.] lit all the candles because the electricity had gone out due to a thunderstorm raging through the Delaware Valley, not because she expected the massage to be particularly romantic. She’d found the massage therapist online, and scheduled the appointment for a night when she knew she’d be alone, with no kids or husband to distract her from this simple bought pleasure that, at 46, she was just starting to feel she deserved. Betty didn’t realize exactly how pleasurable the experience would be. When Brian showed up at her door with his massage table and waited for her to take her clothes off in the other room, it was all business. Betty was so self-conscious about her body at first that she almost didn’t want to step out into the living room without clothes on. She was the first to admit she was no supermodel, no size two or four or six or any of those trim little numbers that women are always striving to diminish themselves into. But she reminded herself that Brian was a professional and surely had seen worse. And what this whole thing was about was how badly she needed to be touched, a need that had lately begun to overrule all self-consciousness, all fear, all propriety. When Brian began to massage her, whispering in her ear, “It’s all about you,” Betty’s enjoyment must have been obvious. “I have another website,” he told her. “I offer a full body massage, where every part of your body is touched, with a full release.” Same price; a hundred bucks. Was she interested? The answer was yes, oh God, yes.</p>
<p>I first stumbled across Brian’s ad buried in the something-for-everyone circus of Craigslist while researching the options available to women for erotic pleasure of the purchased variety. When men want sexual gratification, they don’t have to look very hard to find it in Philadelphia, in almost any price range. What I was looking for was an equivalent just as readily available to women. I wasn’t expecting to find much. As I clicked around on Craigslist, though, I realized I really wanted to. Not so much for myself right now. I was thinking of myself all alone at 60, or married to a husband who was impotent or uninterested, or me on a business trip to some lonely town, or in any number of situations where it would just be more practical to pay someone to get the job done than to go out and find it. As I’d suspected, there wasn’t much out there that fit my basic criterion: It had to be easier and no less dubiously safe than anything I could arrange for myself at the local bar.</p>
<p>PERHAPS SAYING THERE wasn’t much out there is unfair. Rather, there wasn’t much that sounded like something I might do, regardless of how badly I was craving touch or company. Sure, there was the guy with the boa constrictor draped around his bare shoulders, whose typo-ridden ad offered cheap massages for the ladies. He actually seemed like one of the better options, because at least he was charging. Most of the other ads offering to service women were amateur men seeking sex, in the same way men seek sex in practically every other section of Craigslist. But these ads almost invariably used “massage” as a code word. I looked for other possible codes, such as “pool boy” or, grasping at straws, “private car washer,” but no dice. There was a lot of jabber about “tantra,” an Eastern practice that incorporates orgasm into its mostly spiritual course of study. Brian’s ad was different. What he was proposing sounded just like an ordinary massage. When you followed the ad to his website, Pleasinghandsmassage.com, however, it became clear: Brian markets himself as a legitimate, professional massage therapist who happens to massage everything. Specifically, everything on women. The website is no-nonsense, light on the flowery promises, and heavy on testimonials that include the e-mail addresses of his most satisfied clients. Brian ranges far and wide from his Jersey home to serve clients in the Philadelphia area — he travels with his folding massage table — and points beyond. In my mind, the distinction between this website and the other advertisements I’ve looked at is self-evident: This is something women would do.</p>
<p>Despite the close quarters at the counter of the Dutch Eating Place at Reading Terminal Market, Brian of Pleasing Hands Massage is unflinching about explicitly discussing the nature of his business. I can sense the ears of everyone around us perking up as I struggle through all the possible polite euphemisms for what makes Brian’s massages different from those available at a spa or gym: “full release,” “happy ending,” “complete full-body massage,” and his own “pleasing hands.” Brian, being in the business of making women feel comfortable in situations that could very quickly turn uncomfortable, patiently matches my euphemisms until I get over myself and come out with it: Genital massage. Clitoris. Orgasm.</p>
<p>“There are any number of reasons why my clients come to me,” Brian tells me. “Which is to say that there are any number of reasons why someone would feel the need to be touched. I work with sexual abuse survivors. I’ve served as sort of swinger training wheels for couples who are experimenting with the idea of opening their relationship. I’ve been the entertainment for girls’ weekends at the beach. I’ve helped some achieve their goal of G-spot ejaculation. I’ve worked on women whose husbands were impotent … pretty much you name it.” Brian doesn’t discriminate, as long as a prospective client is at least 18. His clients sometimes ask him whether he finds giving full-release massages arousing. “I can get aroused,” Brian says. “I’ve gotten aroused — but I’m there for the person I’m working on, not my needs.”</p>
<p>age 3 of 4<br />
LAINE, A SPUNKY 50-year-old manager of a suburban hair salon, says she was almost too nervous about having a strange man in her house to book her massage with Brian. Curiosity got the better of her. “When I opened the door and saw him, though, I trusted him completely. There was this big bodybuilder guy in a t-shirt that said ‘Massage Therapist,’ filling up the whole doorway. It sounds silly, but he looked like such a nice man.” Brian, 39 years old, is enormous in all directions, the kind of big man that even other big men would not want to anger, buzzed bald and dressed simply in shorts and a t-shirt. His voice is mild and friendly, and he’s engaged to a woman in secretarial temp work who’s interested in becoming a massage therapist. Brian’s the sort of archetypal bruiser-turned-teddy-bear that women trust instinctively.</p>
<p>I had originally intended to book a massage with Brian myself and write about the experience. The legality seemed questionable, though, in that hair-splitting, ambiguous way that would probably be nothing to worry about if I weren’t planning to write about pleasing hands. Brian himself says the legality of his massages is “sort of in a gray area.” The police department’s take seems equally ambiguous. Sergeant Irvin Riley of the Philadelphia Vice Enforcement Unit told me: “A massage becomes prostitution when an extra sexual service is offered for extra money. If the massage costs the same amount with the sexual element as it does without it, that’s considered to be the business of two consenting adults.” The department’s public affairs division, however, took a harsher view, calling paid-for massages that become sexual a form of “prostitution.” Legal or not, I was too chicken to go through with it.</p>
<p>Not so Mary, a 47-year-old college administrator who hired Brian after her marriage of 22 years fell apart. “I wasn’t comfortable dating yet, but I thought that this was something I could do for myself,” she says. After a moment’s hesitation, she adds, “My husband never touched me down there. Every time I’ve had an orgasm, I did it for myself. It was hard to get used to the idea of anyone else even trying to give me one.” While Betty the candle-lighter is still married and intends to stay that way, her story is similar: “I got married for the wrong reasons, as a lot of women my age have. You get to a certain age, your friends start getting married, you meet someone who seems like he’d make a good husband … and then the rest of your life happens,” she tells me over the phone. She’s not complaining; her voice is matter-of-fact. “My husband is … ” she begins, and then pauses to think. “My husband is my husband. It’s not that he’s a bad person, but sex is very simple for him, and he can’t exactly grasp that I might want something more.” Brian’s clients naturally encompass other attitudes toward his service. For example, Molly, 48, says that for her, Brian has been a “natural adjunct to a very satisfying sexual relationship with my husband of almost 15 years, who is completely aware and supportive.”</p>
<p>BRIAN HAS BEEN a massage therapist for 20 years, starting the “Pleasing Hands” leg of his trade six years ago. One of his regular clients broached the subject of getting a “full-release” massage, he did it, and she then referred him to a friend of hers, which started the chain of word-of-mouth referrals that led Brian to advertise himself as a full-release massage therapist.</p>
<p>At first, he offered the full-release service to both men and women. “It wasn’t necessarily a gay thing with my male clients,” Brian says. “Many of them were men who had chronic pain and literally needed a strong man to work on their muscles. The orgasm release at the end is just finishing the job: release of tension, release of stress, release of pain, release of orgasm.”</p>
<p>Brian’s impulse to cater to both genders was touchingly democratic, but he acceded to his female clients’ desire that he work only on them. To a man, a full-release massage that actually gets out the kinks in his back is just one more way he can generally get whatever he wants. For a woman, it’s an act of liberation and courage whose exclusivity to women increases this exact appeal.</p>
<p>Brian sees anywhere between five and 15 massage clients a week, roughly 75 percent of them women who want to experience a full release. His competition is limited to one other practitioner Brian considers to be legitimate: a man named Frank who works in the area and uses the same Internet marketing resources as Brian (Craigslist, Sensualzen.com, Frank’s own website, Tantricserenity.com). Frank tends to play up the aspect of tantra in his copy, whereas Brian bypasses this to focus on sounding professional and nurturing.</p>
<p>Clients such as Betty, though, are still somewhat circumspect about their use of Brian’s services. “I don’t have a happy marriage,” she says, “but I want my home to be as peaceful and happy as possible for my children. It’s not a perfect world. Brian needs to be my secret. I don’t feel I’m cheating, but I can see how it would be seen that way.”</p>
<p>Betty’s right; it’s not a perfect world. When you speak to Brian’s clients, it’s easy to forget just how much could go wrong when a woman hires a man to address her sexual needs. Safety concerns aside, sexuality is still an inner minefield for many women. Even in an age in which sex-toy parties have replaced Tupperware nights, it’s still the few and the brave among women who hire a professional to help them get off. And it’s the even fewer and braver men who’ve stepped up to the task and figured out how to meet these women’s needs in a way that satisfies their female clients, as opposed to their own libidos.<br />
Originally published in Philadelphia magazine, May 2009</p>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 04 Jan 2009 22:34:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>KrisEllen</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am honored to share with you &#8220;Good Clean Love&#8221; erotic products.</p>
<p>100% Natural and organic ingredients. No parabens &#8211;no petro-chemicals!</p>
<p>Offering:</p>
<p>Good Clean Love Oils: Aphrodisiac essential oil formulas, Great for sensious massage, safe for internal lubercation (not latex compatible). Three exotic formulas to suit every taste</p>
<p>Good Clean Love Personal Lubricants: 95% organic ingredients infused with real flowers and herbs. Naturally smooth, moist and long lasting. No industrial chemicals. Safe for latex and toys. (my personal recommendation &#8230;I use this wonderful product to share only the best with my yoni, natural and healing)</p>
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<p>Other products are available. For more information about all of their products please visit: www.goodcleanlove.com (the link on this website will get you there as well). Please let them know Kris Ellen sent you shopping for the very best in natural, erotic products.</p>
<p>Part of the responsibility of taking care of ourselves is honoring our physical Temples. What goes in them, what we choose to go on them, and what we do with them. Conscious choices. Please take the time to make love to yourself.</p>
<p>Order your natural Good Clean Love products today!</p>
<p>Blessings,</p>
<p>Kris Ellen</p>
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